The Girlie Girl Takes on Menswear Style.

How we present ourselves to the world is everything, lovelies. That’s why it’s important to put your best face, and style forward!

I’ll be the first to admit that I’m a girlie, girl!

Wikipedia describes a girlie girl as, “a woman who chooses to dress and behave in an especially feminine style, such as wearing pink (I like red), using make-up, perfume, dressing in skirts, dresses and blouses.”

Well, I may be all woman, but on occasion, I add a little menswear to my outfit!

I’m wearing this gorgeous Casati Fein Necktie from Dwimmer; made especially for women. It’s a breeze to put on and it’s handmade! Just this little addition to my black shirtdress, turned my outfit from drab to fab!

Wishing everyone a fabulous week and until next time, love and light!

Julie

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Dress (similar) – Who What Wear Collection by Target // Casati Fein Necktie – Dwimmer // Cobalt Blue Open Toed Stiletto – Shoeland // Clutchbag – Vintage // Sunnies – Old

 

Confidence of Style for the Woman over 40

Hey there, lovelies!

In more recent years and from those closest to me, I’ve been told that I need to grow up, not because I am immature or irresponsible, but because of my wardrobe choices. For the most part, I’ve just shrugged their comments off as disapproval or discomfort with my youthful spirit and confidence of style.

“Should we care what others think at this stage of our lives? Often times, the woman who is confident in her personal style abides by the notion that age-appropriate dressing means nothing for them; it’s all about dressing for your body type.  Our generation is redefining the concept of aging, just as we’ve redefined so many other things. Style after 40 is not about being in competition with your daughter or looking like the girl you were 20 years ago; it’s about dressing like the woman you are now. What matters most is that you feel as comfortable in your clothes as you do in your skin.

I own a number of pencil skirts that are form fitting. The difference now compared to 20 years ago is that today I will pair my form fitting skirt with a tunic instead of that crop top I wore in 1997.  I dress in 2017 to flatter my body now. Once you’ve looked at your body honestly and figured out what works best now and what no longer is flattering, you’ll feel more confident in what you choose to wear.  Hey, you might still be able to rock that crop!

Know that the foundation of style is an understanding of not only who you are but also the kind of woman you want to project.

As a stylist, my objective is to revitalize wardrobes and to move a client’s style out of the past and into the present, without trying to make them look younger.

With garments that fit appropriately and styles that exude your personality, you will have a youthful aura and confidence about you. You will project an image of being capable to be compete with the younger, and in so many words, less experienced woman.

Stay empowered, inspired and remember, age ain’t nothin’ but a number!

Click on the “Styling Services” tab to find out how I can be of service to you. I want to help you project the best version of yourself to the world.

Until next time, love and light!

Julie

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MESH DRESS // c/o Zara SHOES // Shoeland — JEANS // Forever 21 Plus —  SUNNIES // c/o NYS Collection — BAG // Gifted c/o The Philipines

PHOTOGRAPHY // Julie D. Harbour for Stylish Paradox

 

Covered Perfectly in Cold Shoulder Love

Hey Lovelies!

Hope you all are well and filling your days with sunshine!

I know some of you are of the mind, that if you find an item of clothing that you love you should buy it in every color.  Well, Covered Perfectly’s Cold Shoulder fits the bill.  Check out this beauty in white.  She’s hot!

I’ve done a number of reviews for this brand, and the Cold Shoulder is definitely one of my favorites!  Although I have said it before, I’ll say it again…the fabric on their blouses is heavenly!  Soft to the touch, well constructed and covers a multitude of lumps, bumps and sins!

Stylish Paradox readers get a 20% discount on up to two items! Just use the discount code SP20 when checking out at Covered Perfectly. The discount will apply on up to two items or you can take advantage of the buy 2 get the 3rd FREE deal.  Just so you know, only one of the discounts will work.

Click here.  You’ll love it.

Until next time, love and light!

Julie

 

 

Pic & Pay: Spreading Kindness Globally Along with Shoes

Hey there, Stylistas!

I can remember as a child, my mother would always make sure that my sister Donna and I had the best shoes.  Our trips to this well known children’s shoe store often times ended with her saying, “Do you want to wear your new shoes out of the store?”  My answer was always an emphatic, YES!  So, along with my love for style and fashion, shoes are right up there at the top of the list!

I recently partnered with Pic & Pay, a women’s footwear brand which offers classic styles that are cut for the modern woman. Their shoes are affordable yet offer a fashionable touch for a number of occasions, including your office work days, nights out on the town or fun days spent with friends and family!

I fell in love with the Cayden, which is a crossover, metallic sling back sandal.  The bottom of the shoe has a white, rubber bottom and is super dooper comfortable.

For this post, I paired the sandals with an African printed wrap skirt and off the shoulder blouse.  It was blazing hot in Los Angeles on this particular day, and I needed to have on sandals!  Cayden came through!  And after my Saturday shopping, I returned home with feet that didn’t feel like I was walking for 3 hours!

One more important thing about the company, Pic & Pay.  When you purchase a pair of their shoes, a percentage will go towards spreading kindness globally.  They have established a network of “Forwarders”, who are ambassadors that are encouraged to spread random acts of kindness. When you do a good deed for someone, tell them to go pay it forward and watch the ripple effect that a simple act can create.

They also have a partnership with Soles4Souls, a non-profit social enterprise that creates jobs and provides relief through the distribution of shoes and clothing around the globe. This non-profit has distributed more than 30 million pairs of new and used shoes in 127 countries.  And Pic & Pay has donated over 13,000 pairs of shoes to those who need them the most.

Shoes for causes?!  I think I’m on to something here.  And it feels good!

Until next time, love and light.

Julie

 

 

Aventura Clothing: Garments That Give to Those in Need

 

Hey there!

We’re in the throes of summer and I pray that everyone is taking advantage of the sunny skies.  I hope you have them in your neck of the woods!

I wanted to take a minute to show you the cutest little shirt I received from a company called Aventura Clothing.  When I put it on, it gives me the vibe of a feminine lumberjack. Is there such a thing as a female, girlie girl lumberjack? Lol!

My Sheridan top is a basic button down in the front, but in the back, she shows out!  The sleeve length is adjustable and the fabric is very soft to the touch.  See picture below.

Here are quick facts about Aventura Clothing.  They are a family run business located in the Sierra Nevada that engages in sustainable practices.  And get this, their garments are made of soft eco-friendly organic cotton! In addition, they are all about giving back to communities in need! They have partnered with Uncommon Threads, an organization who provides garments for domestic violence survivors returning to the workforce and Ecōths, a philanthropic program they launched in 2014 with the focus of fighting hunger in America. Each time you buy an Aventura garment, at least 3 meals will be provided to someone who is hungry.

Now, how about wearing clothing that is making someone else’s life a little easier. BRAVO, Aventura!

Until next time, love and light!

Julie

 

 

 

Styling THOSE Track Pants…You Know The Ones!

Hey there lovely people!

It’s a beautiful day, and I’m here to speak on styling your track pants!

A couple of years ago, a number of folks starting wearing their Adidas track pants with heels.  Remember that?  Well this year the trend has taken off and if you are anywhere on social media, you’re very likely to run across this one particular pair of track pants by the WhoWhatWear Collection.

When I first saw them at Target they caught my eye, but I didn’t purchase.  Needless to say, my non-purchase haunted me in my sleep.  So, the very next opportunity I got to buy them, I did.  Great price, by the way!

I absolutely love them!  They are definitely an item you can dress up or down and here are a number of ways to do so:

  • Athleisure/Typical:  How folks would expect you to wear these babies.  With sneaks; my favorite being Converse.  A plain or cute statement tee and a jacket.  Your jacket could be a bomber or moto jacket.  I’ve done both.
  • Dressy:  I paired mine with a stark white cape blazer, which totally set off the white stripe piping.  I wore a statement tee with one of my favorite tag lines for the stylish, “Slay All Day”.  My shoes were a little edgy; white/black snakeskin stilettos.  And it worked!  It really werked, lol!
  • Bohoish:  I know, it’s not a word.  I’ve also thrown on my pants with OTS blouses on occasion, when running my weekend errands.  Yellow, black or white blouses or even something patterned if you dare.  Sandals, were my shoe of choice.
  • Date Night/Girl’s Night Out: Pair with a bodyshirt, statement necklace and strappy high heeled sandals. #boom

Again, I always talk about owning your style, but it’s totally true.  Even when a piece is trending, wear it in such a way that it becomes your classic!

These particular pants are sold out online, but there are so many beautiful ones to choose from, here, here and here.

If you need help revitalizing your wardrobe or closet, give your girl a jingle.  Just click on “Styling Services” for all the details.

Until next time beauties!

Love y’all!

Julie

 

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Cape Blazer – New York and Company (sold out) // Bomber Jacket – Mossimo (Targetstyle) (sold out) // Statement Tee – Forever 21 (sold out) // Those Track Pants – WhoWhatWear (similar here) // Pumps – Sam Edelman (sold out)  // Sneakers – Converse // Sunnies – NYS Collection (similar here) // Images by @makinlemonade

Socks with Stilettos. Just do it!

Hey there, Stylistas!

The practice of wearing socks with any type of high heel was once considered a fashion faux pas, a mistake that only the stylishly challenged made.  But today, socks and heels or sandals worn together is, a street style that designers and those in the public eye are embracing with abandon.

This is a bold choice for anyone, let alone a woman of a certain age. The key is keeping the rest of your outfit simple, and playing with the texture and length of the socks so they remain the focal point. This combination can be styled in many different ways and even by those who might be afraid to stand out.

After the initial shock, I even admit, this daring combination holds a certain offhand attraction. But not any old sock or sandal will work. Pair pretty pastels with metallic sandals, or get playful with polka dots (a personal favorite).

If you want to wear a thicker sock with shoes for work, then make sure the color of the socks match the color of the high heels, they should be close hues. 

Try them on at home and see what works best with you and your own personal tastes and style. The best looks are always the ones that can mix and incorporate trends with a personal touch.

So the question is should you wear socks with stilettos? The answer is a resounding “yes”.  As long as you know how to pair them appropriately.  Let’s be clear, this is not for the shuffling old woman!  Be creative, daring and most of all remember, that you CAN pull it off. Because YOU are totally fabulous!!

Until next time, love and light!

Julie

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OTS Gingham Blouse – New York and Company // Blush Pleated Skirt – H&M // – Taupe Pumps – Steven Madden // Clutch (old) & Fishnet Socks – Forever 21 // Sunnies (similar) – NYS Collection

Merona Socks – Target //  Pewter T-Strap Pumps – Sam and Libby for Target // Black Patent Leather Pumps – Jessica Simpson

Images by @makinlemonade (based in New Orleans)

 

Look for the Good. She’s Right There, Waiting for You.

Hey Lovelies!

I hope you all are having an amazing weekend.  Let’s appreciate that it will be a good, long Memorial Day weekend.

As a blogger, I want to be transparent about who I am, so it doesn’t appear that my life is just about smiling and pretty clothes.  I must admit, life could be a whole lot harder. Yes, I am blessed.  But know that since I’ve begun this business and blogging journey, I have been plagued with things that would bog down most.  I’m not here to complain or brag, but to witness and encourage someone who is on the edge and ready to throw in the towel.

I am a witness that when things get the toughest, God ALWAYS shows up for my good.  Just. Like. Clockwork.  BOOM!

I absolutely love quotes and I use them as inspiration and motivation.  Here is my favorite quote for this week and  recent experiences:

“Don’t get mad.  Don’t get even.  Do better, much better.  Rise above.  Become so engulfed in your own success, that you forget it ever happened.” – Author Unknown

That is all.

OUTFIT/LOOK

How can you go wrong with vibrant color and ruffles!?  Love this blouse from the #whowhatwearcollection.  I paired my lovely top with bell bottom jeans from the Forever 21 plus line and accessorized with a beautiful large tote with gold details from Target, large hoop earrings and wedge heels.  Y’all know I love some color!  It makes me happy!

Until next time! Love and light!

Julie

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Ruffle Blouse – WhoWhatWearCollection // Bell Bottom Frayed Jeans (sold out) – Forever 21 Plus // Tote Bag – Targetstyle // Wedge Heels – BCBG  (similar)// Sunnies – NYS Collection (similar) // Photography – @makinlemonade (New Orleans based)

 

 

The Stylish Empty Nester. Unplugged.

Happy Monday, folks!

Today marks my first day back in the office after a few days away.  I used my time enjoying my adult children visiting and reluctantly, nursing a lingering case of bronchitis.

This time last year I was beaming because of my youngest child’s graduation from college, yet I was a little ambivalent about her decision to remain in New Orleans.  But as parents, we raise our children to explore the world and be great, right?!  But I couldn’t deny the large lump in my throat and racing heartbeat when she revealed her plans in the Spring of 2016.  I fought back sounding emotional over the phone, and proclaimed, “I understand”.

When my children and I get together it is always an amazing time, but I just can’t get over the emotions I feel each time we part ways. It’s like I’m dropping them off at college all over again, but there won’t be anymore summer breaks spent at home.  They reside out of state and are living their lives as responsible adults.  Sometimes I wonder how my mother did it.  Clearly, I’m just having a moment and I am sure that it’ll take some time for me to adjust.  I will adjust, but my love for them will never.  They are my children, forever.

Me and my kiddos! Brad and Ashleigh.
Brad and his Muvaa.

See brief video of  my son’s photoshoot.  My daughter is behind the camera and my nephew is the model.  IMG_0989

MY STYLE

This floral dress is very pretty, with it’s cold shoulder design.  Perfect for a sunny day, it is light and airy and falls nicely on my form.  I love the cold shoulder designs that are very popular these days.  They are perfect for ladies like me who don’t have the most toned arms, but want to show a little! Ha!

I paired my dress with pink caged stilettos for that splash of color.

Until next time, peace and blessings!

I love y’all!

Julie

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DressNew York and Company // Shoes – New York and Company (sold out) similar here // Hoop Earrings – Old // Bracelet – Old // SunniesForever 21 // Images –  Photography by Nichole Alex

 

The Spruced up LBD (Little Black Dress)

Happy Friday, Lovelies!

It’s been quite an interesting couple of weeks.  I celebrated Mother’s Day with my children, who visited from Texas and Louisiana. Prior to their arrival, I came down with a horrible cold that turned into bronchitis.  Between work, trying to get better and spending quality time with my children, I’ve been somewhat MIA.  I had to remind myself that it is okay, because life is not predictable.  Sometimes you must take a break, regroup and start anew.

So, regarding the LBD…  Did you know that in the 1920’s Coco Chanel came up with the term ‘little black dress’? Ms. Coco became famous by introducing loose fitted dresses and shapes which ultimately freed women from the restrictive corsets worn previously.  And to think, the dress was supposed to be loose fitting! 

I’m sure many of us own, or have owned a number of little black dresses.  The simplicity of the dress is its color, which makes it uber easy to spruce up!

Try adding these to your dress:

  • “Standout” shoe or purse (could be in color or style)
  • Statement jewelry
  • Colorful scarf
  • Sassy attitude

Remember that balance is key.  For instance, the LBD I am wearing in this post has very dramatic bell sleeves.  There wasn’t alot that needed to be done to this dress, because the sleeves were just so amazing!  I just added a large hoop and a standout shoe.  Voila!

Until next time, love and light!

Julie

LBD – New York and Company // Red PumpsBaldi of New York // Images by Nichole Alex Photography